The Lighter Side of Transformation

with Lisa Wessan, LICSW

What is the 4-week rolling enrollment period for Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training?

Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of the DBT psychoeducation curriculum, understood that some people might miss trimester deadlines to start at the beginning of each semester. In classic non-binary, non-dualistic DBT fashion, it’s possible to be both late and on time at the same moment—what does that really mean?

Three times a year, several weeks before and during the Mindfulness Module, new students can join the ongoing DBT group to start at beginning of the next cycle.

Here are a few of the main topics for the Mindfulness Module:

Good, better, best enrollment process?

Best is registering early, completing the intake session and forms in advance, and starting on Day 1.

Better is waiting until the last few weeks, the crunch time—and just managing to finish in time.

Good is joining after the class has begun, missing a week or two, but still getting involved. Continuing and then thriving thereafter. (When this happens, the new student pays a pro-rated fee for the group reflecting the missed sessions.)

If you or someone you know has been wanting to join this group but keeps missing the deadlines, there’s still a chance! The final cut-off for this semester is January 27. Once we finish the Mindfulness Module and begin the Interpersonal Effectiveness material, no new members will be able to join.

There are reasons behind all of this, and this is just the briefest summary! Ideally, all DBT students would register weeks before the class begins, making the experience much more relaxing for everyone involved.

If you or someone you know could benefit from this solution-focused, science-backed, and proven personal growth program, don’t wait to get started. My next Tuesday evening group meets from January 6 – April 7, 2026. You can learn more here: https://www.lisawessan.com/dialectical-behavioral-therapy

Onward and Upward✨

Lisa Wessan

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Obituary for beloved Q-tip

July 16, 2008 – May 16, 2025

Q-tip was adopted from Nevins Farms, a beautiful MSPCA animal shelter in Methuen, MA.  He was part of a litter of gorgeous kittens.  The volunteer who enrolled the kittens into the shelter named it the Diva Litter. Each cat was magnificent and dramatically beautiful.

Q-tip’s temporary animal shelter name was Liberace. He was renamed Q-tip, which is an acronym for Quit Taking It Personally. His mix of Turkish Angora and Siamese breeds gave him a fabulous coat of fur. His bright blue eyes made him a handsome little guy. Here’s a 15 second video of him in action, Qtip playing with balloon.

His sister, Luna, was temporarily named Cher.  Their litter mates were Elvis, Frank, Barbara, Madonna, Lady Gaga and other renowned Divas of the time.

From the start, Q-tip was very warm and affectionate. He needed no time to become a lapcat. He loved to be brushed, snuggled, kissed and held closely. No amount of hugs was too much for Q-tip.  His sister, Luna, was more of an acrobat, and barely spent time on people’s laps. She hated being brushed.  (Luna ran away in 2014 and was never found.)  Eventually a second cat was adopted, to replace Luna. Her name is Yum-Yum, and she was very good company for Q-Tip.

Q-tip was extremely intuitive and connected to his human mother, Lisa Wessan.  When Lisa’s deceased husband, Gary Malkin, was in the ER, Q-tip stepped up. Lisa’s friends and family were always helpful, but Q-tip was her emotional support buddy at home. He helped when Gary was recovering from strokes in rehab nursing homes.  He knew she was struggling and made an extra effort to be comforting, attentive and loving.  He helped Lisa get through the many medical traumas and crises of Gary’s multiple illnesses the past five years.  Without Q-tip, it would have been a much harsher caregiver journey for Lisa.  Q-tip was always loving, soothing and a force for healing energy in Lisa’s home life. Lisa referred to him as “her furry angel.”  

For 17 human years (119 kitty years), Q-tip was a super healthy indoor kitty. He was not sick for one day of his long life.  He was given excellent grain-free food, drank only filtered water and was well loved.   He is survived by his step sister Yum-Yum,  and his human mother Lisa, who is missing him terribly now.  

Precious siblings Luna and Q-tip, resting in peace with Gary💙

💙In lieu of flowers, please send donations to Memorial Gifts ASPCA.

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Just for Today, by Sybil F. Partridge

1.  Just for today I will be happy.  This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.

2.  Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.

3.  Just for today I will take care of my body.  I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

4.  Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind.  I will learn something useful.  I will not be a mental loafer.  I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

5.  Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways;  I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out.  I will do at least two things I don’t want to do as William James suggests, just for exercise.

6.  Just for today I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.

7.  Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once.  I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.

8.  Just for today I will have a program.  I will write down what I expect to do every hour.  I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it.  It will eliminate two pests, hurry and indecision.

9.  Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax.  In this half hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.

10.  Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

If we want to develop a mental attitude that will bring us peace and happiness, here is Rule #1:

Think and act cheerfully, and you will feel cheerful.

Written by Sybil F. Partridge   1916 and printed in
How To Stop Worrying, And Start Living, by Dale Carnegie, 1951

LW: Whenever you set a new intention, or want to develop a positive new habit, or break an old negative habit, start something new, always remember, “Progress not Perfection.” Old ways are tough to change, but it will get done. Slowly, slowly, you can do it. You can do hard things…There is a solution…Never give up💙

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Mastering Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills (DBT): 14-Week Distress Tolerance and Mindfulness Skills Training, starts June 10, 2025, 7:30 – 9 PM EST (on Zoom)

Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm…

Hi, 

I’m excited to be teaching the next 14-week semester of Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills (DBT).  This semester we will cover Distress Tolerance & Mindfulness Skills.

🌀 Click here for the current DBT FLYER.

DBT skills significantly help to reduce the escalation of your inflammatory emotions. They also lessen the painful, polarized and perfectionist thinking that often cause your meltdowns. You will learn to find your peaceful “Middle Path” here. 

There are many powerful skills included in this semester’s work. We hope you will create your own personal Distress Tolerance tool kit. Use the techniques that work the best for you.

Unfortunately, there is no “one size fits all” with these various techniques. You need to be a good scientist in the laboratory of your life and try them all out.  To that end, DBT provides excellent handouts, worksheets and exercises to help you practice between sessions. You will eventually find the techniques that you love. These techniques will help you pause successfully. They will transform difficult moments into something better.

You might have someone in mind for this next DBT Group. If so, please have them contact me soon at my web site – www.lisawessan.com – and fill out the Contact Form. This private form helps them briefly tell me the best times to reach them. (It also guides them to check out their insurance for the Out of Network benefit.)

Please know, this is a NO-SPAM zone, and no one’s email is saved unless requested to do so.

14-week fee: $1120 for continuing students, $1420 for new students (includes one Intake session.)  

It is an honor to serve your friends, family, patients or clients with this powerful, experiential, transformative curriculum.

Onward and Upward✨
Lisa Wessan

“If you can recognize and accept your pain
without running away from it,
you will discover that although pain is there,
joy can also be there at the same time.”

~ Thich Nhat Hanh, No Mud, No Lotus

Lisa Wessan, LICSW, CLYL, RM
Psychotherapist, Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Trainer (DBT),
Podcaster, Author, Speaker
www.lisawessan.com
UP NEXT: DBT Distress Tolerance & Mindfulness Skills (Virtual, June 3 – September 2, 2025)
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Reduce Political Anxiety: Use the 5 Calls App (free)

The singer/songwriter Joan Baez said it best, “Action is the antidote for despair.” Worrying is not going to help you, or this situation. Taking actions will reduce your anxiety. It will help you sleep better. It will also put your congressional representatives on alert for their constituents’ concerns.

You are not alone. The anxiety and fear arising from the often impulsive, reckless current political choices coming out of Washington, DC are hurting everyone. Democrats, Republicans and Libertarians are struggling to cope with these radical changes.

In my work, reducing anxiety and increasing distress tolerance are part of the process. When it comes to political anxiety, I know that it can be healthy to have a bit of a rant, but then you need to switch into action mode.

There are many ways to do this, but my favorite method is to use the 5 Calls App. Whoever designed this App deserves a Nobel prize! It lists most of the current issues that are being addressed. It’s very easy to use. You don’t have to give them your email or cell phone, just the zip code where you vote is enough.

I’ve read the science on these calls (https://5calls.org/why-calling-works/ – Scroll down to the cited articles). Yes, attending Town Hall meetings and making phone calls are the MOST EFFECTIVE ways to communicate with your congress people. Phone calls are definitely better than emails and faxes, for sure.

The App gives you sample scripts to use. I often start with the 5 Calls’ script, and then riff from that.

In sum, each phone call feels like a psychospiritual colonic cleanse! Ahh, sweet relief. You don’t have to make 5 calls in a day, one or two will do. Don’t take my word for it. Just take an action and see what happens.

Here is a screenshot of the 5 Calls App.

For example, yesterday I learned that President Trump plans to spend $92 million dollars for a military parade to celebrate his birthday. DOGE is slashing important science research at the National Institutes of Health. DOGE is also dismembering Social Security and other questionable reductions of important government services. Meanwhile, Trump is going to give himself a LAVISH parade?

Nay, nay! I immediately called my congress people and told them to block this $92 million waste ASAP. I shared my thoughts, feelings, and angst. I lowered my blood pressure and reduced my cortisol level. I felt so good after I made the calls. I am part of the solution! Being furious will not change anything. Being all wound up is ineffective. Clutching my pearls while shaking with disgust is NOT going to reverse this administration’s wrecking ball activities.

Remember, “Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”

May the 5 Calls App help you feel better, stronger, healthier and wiser.

Onward and Upward🌀
Lisa Wessan

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UP NEXT: Spring/Summer 2024 Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills Training May 21 – August 27, 2024 (on Zoom)

Hi,
I’m excited to be continuing to teach the evidence-based Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training (“DBT”) on Tuesdays nights, 7:30 – 9:00 PM EST, in the Zoom Classroom…

It takes one year to complete the full curriculum, but I divide the work into three trimesters.

January – April we study “Emotion Regulation,” May – August is “Distress Tolerance,” September – December is “Interpersonal Effectiveness.” We explore and review Mindfulness skills the first few weeks of each trimester. 

UP NEXT: we are moving towards wholeness and more inner peace studying “Distress Tolerance.”

There are still a few spots still open for this Spring/Summer term.  Learn more here: 

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy | Lisa Wessan

Fast Facts: 

  • All 90-minute groups are $75/Week (see FAQ on web site for PPO/insurance details).
  • Students pay in full prior to start of group. [New students need to complete their registration forms, intake sessions and fees no later than 5/17/24.]
  • My students are educated and well mannered, high functioning and convivial.  For those who occasionally tend to demand more attention, want to give inappropriate feedback and/or act out in any way, I do have a strong “Respectful Communication Policy” in place and several useful group rules which help to maintain a safe, harmonious and cohesive group atmosphere.  All are welcome, but there is no allowance for disruptive behavior.
  • Group members will continue to process their unresolved traumas in their individual therapy, not in this group. This is a therapeutic psychoeducation program. (It is NOT group therapy.)
  • Group size ranges from 6-12 students.

May this serve you or other loved ones well✨

Lisa Wessan, LICSW, CLYL, RM
Psychotherapist, Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Trainer (DBT)
www.lisawessan.com
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“The mind that is awakening laughs at itself a lot. It laughs as the echo of old patterns show up.”
Wisdom Quotes from The Way of Mastery (#23)

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UP NEXT: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills training (DBT) on Mindfulness & Distress Tolerance, May – August 2023 on Zoom

Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm…

Hi, 

Thank you for your continued interest in my work. I know I haven’t posted frequently enough here – but that will change soon!

For today, I’m excited to be teaching the next 14-week semester of Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills (DBT).  This semester we will cover Mindfulness & Distress Tolerance Skills.

🌀 Click here for the current  DBT FLYER. 

With the Distress Tolerance curriculum, your will learn valuable skills and interventions to help yourself reduce your intense stress and harsh feelings in the moment – to lower the volume on your anticipatory anxiety and catastrophic thinking. These DBT skills significantly help to reduce the escalation of your inflammatory emotions, and reduce the painful, polarized and perfectionist thinking that often cause your meltdowns. You will learn to find your peaceful “Middle Path” here. 

There are many powerful skills included in this semester’s work. It is the hope of this process that you will put together your own personal Distress Tolerance tool kit with the techniques that work the best for you.

Unfortunately, there is no “one size fits all” with these various techniques, so you do need to be a good scientist in the laboratory of your life and try them all out.  You will eventually find the ones that you love, and that will work quickly and effectively for you. 

Yes, I am looking forward to continuing this exciting journey towards wholeness with this next group.  I am also deeply honored to be sharing this transformative and useful educational process with you.

If this is not for you, but you have someone in mind for this next DBT Group, please have them contact me soon at my web site – currently www.MirthMaven.com – and fill out the Contact Form which helps them briefly tell me the best times to reach them (by phone) and guides them to check out their insurance (for the Out of Network benefit).  Otherwise this course is private pay, $980 for continuing students, $1215 for new students (includes one Intake session.)  

Onward and Upward✨

Lisa Wessan

“If you can recognize and accept your pain
without running away from it,
you will discover that although pain is there,
joy can also be there at the same time.”

~ Thich Nhat Hanh, No Mud, No Lotus


Lisa Wessan, LICSW, CLYL, RM
Psychotherapist, Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Trainer (DBT)
Life Coach, Author, Speaker, Consultant

www.MirthMaven.com
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How Toxic Positivity Can Affect Your Health: Benefits of Complaining

Katie Couric spoke to a therapist about how she grieved Jay’s death, the dangers of toxic positivity and the benefits of negativity.
— Read on katiecouric.com/health/dangers-of-toxic-positivity-benefits-of-negativity/

🌀On the importance of doing a thorough Brain Dump to release and let go of your unexpressed grief, rage, disgust and other negative feelings. You cannot do a Spiritual or Cognitive By-Pass!

🌀Tears are the language of grief, and messy, hard crying jags are on the road to wellness.

🌀After reading this article, I will never again say “Everything happens for a reason” (out loud). Mea culpa, mea culpa…

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Say Yes to Life: In Spite of Everything, by Viktor E. Frankl

Yes to Life: In Spite of Everything by Viktor E. Frankl

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


I appreciate the succinct and compact composition of this unabridged audio book. As much as I loved Frankl’s earlier book, Man’s Search for Meaning, this one extracts the essence of Frankl’s Logotherapy (the power of meaning and purpose in life). He provides valuable ideas and interventions geared towards Solution Focused therapy.

I continue to be touched, moved and inspired by Frankl, on ever deeper and more meaningful levels💙



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Walk and Talk Therapy featured on Boston Chronicle with Lisa Wessan

Lisa Wessan featured on Inside/Outside episode

09.09.20 – ABC News/The Boston Chronicle, Inside/Outside episode. Finding Peace in the Great Outdoors. I was interviewed by great team from the Boston Chronicle concerning my work with Walk and Talk Therapy. This was part of a longer story about how we are taking our work outside during the pandemic.

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