Hi,
I hope this message finds you well.
During the holidays, especially Thanksgiving-Christmas/Hanukah/Kawanzza-New Year’s-Valentines Day, aka The Red Zone, there are many more opportunities to feeling the pain of Compare and Despair, neglect, arguments, loss, grief and a boatload of intense feelings.
You may also be forced to spend time with a relative you despise, or be tempted to eat food or drinks that make you feel sick. While being triggered all over the place, your impulse issues may be whispering in your ear, “Drink me, eat me, buy me, smoke me, shop me, gamble me, escape into video games/Netflix” on and on.
Everyone goes through this, but some of you feel it a lot more deeply.
To that end, I want to offer you a few resources from my MirthMaven archives to help you get through The Red Zone. May you find some wonderful skills and tools here to get through those midnight blues, or whenever the intense feelings feel like too much:
- Extra Tools for Letting Go (Wessan, November 2018, 25 min). You may enjoy this useful and entertaining video of ways to quickly let go of harsh feelings.
- The Red Zone – Chock full of tips and techniques for help with this holiday season.
- Compare and Despair – added insight for social media distress, feeling left out, unloved, unwanted.
As always, let’s remember that “Feelings are not Facts,” and to practice being a good observer as the storm passes through you. Reminding yourself that “This too shall pass,” “I can do HARD things” and “Never Give Up” can help to carry you through the tough times.
At the very least, remember to use the “Take 5” breathwork method: inhale to the count of five, hold for five seconds, and release to the count of five. Repeat for at least six rounds of Take 5 breaths, to get re-centered and regain some inner calm.
May you have a more peaceful holiday season,
Copyright © by Lisa Wessan 2019. All rights reserved.
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