The Lighter Side of Transformation

with Lisa Wessan, LICSW

Effective Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Open Enrollment Now

 
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl

 

I am delighted to announce that the next virtual 14-week Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills (DBT) Group will be meeting on Tuesday evenings, 7:30 – 9 PM EST, February 18 – May 20, 2025.  We will be covering both the Mindfulness and Emotion Regulation modules.  (This is an ongoing group that has open enrollment periods three times per year.)

[If you would like to receive a copy of the full 14-week curriculum, please request one HERE. (This is a NO-SPAM Zone, so your email will not be added to any list unless you request it.]

The Mindfulness material includes:

  • Learning how to be a good observer, describing your feelings, participating more fully in life
  • How to become non-judgmental of yourself and others
  • Staying in the present moment with more ease
  • Practicing being effective for the greater good of your family, workplace, community
  • Accessing Wise Mind (aka higher self, higher consciousness)
  • Understanding Reality Acceptance and detaching from negative or critical thoughts.
  • Shifting from Willfulness to Willingness

The Emotion Regulation module has four sections:

  • Understanding and Naming Emotions
  • Changing Emotional Responses
  • Reducing Vulnerability to Emotion Mind (your highly reactive and difficult emotions)
  • Managing Extremely Difficult Emotions

As DBT founder Dr. Marsha Linehan says, “It is difficult to manage your emotions when you do not understand how emotions work. Knowledge is power.”

GROUP ATMOSPHERE: My students are well mannered, high functioning and convivial.  For those who occasionally tend to demand more attention, want to give inappropriate feedback and/or act out in any way, I do have a strong “Respectful Communication Policy” in place and several useful group rules which help to maintain a safe, harmonious and cohesive group atmosphere.  All are welcome, but there is no allowance for rude or harsh behavior.

Group members will continue to process their unresolved traumas in their individual therapy, not in this group. This is a therapeutic psychoeducation program. (It is NOT group therapy.)

For dates, fees, videos and more details, please visit
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy | Lisa Wessan

May this serve you or your loved ones well in their journey towards wholeness and more inner peace.

Onward and Upward🌀

Lisa Wessan

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Is this true? Young Love vs. Old Love…

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Young love is about wanting to be happy. Old love is about wanting someone else to be happy.

~ Mary Pipher, Psychologist

When I first saw this quote in The Boston Sunday Globe (11/18/07 in “A love supreme finds space in dementia”), I thought it was beautiful.  But now I’m wondering if it is referring to a codependent love?  Do we naturally sacrifice our own happiness for others? Is it a true exchange? Does wanting others to be happy make us happy as well? Will that be a quiet, joyful feeling, or an ecstatic white light flight into the heights of happiness? Or sometimes one, then the other, plus all the levels in between?

I am also reminded of a sermon I heard a while back, when the pastor asked, “Can there be love without sacrifice?”   I was percolating on that for a while, and realized that true love is refined in the kilm of sacrifice. That is where it truly gets to shine and become complete. The crucible of marriage has taught me this and I trust it is for the good…but sometimes I do wonder. This is truly a dialectical debate, dealing with the pain in the name of love.

As the poet Rainer Maria Rilke once said, “For one human being to love another, that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”

Thoughts?

I’m Curious.  Can we have deep love without sacrifice?

Onward and Upward,

Lisa Wessan

 

 

 

 

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